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Hema Vaidya's avatar

Very informative letter to your dad.

As you said, when asked this question you are often compelled to answer ‘yes I’m ok’ even though you may not be.

Most of the time you get used to life without that person but on some days their absence makes you just as sad as the day you lost them.

People are well meaning but there is that assumption that after 5 years, surely you’re ok.

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Ruhie Vaidya's avatar

Yes exactly! People assume with enough time, those of us grieving must be okay now. And in some ways we are - at many times we are happy and doing well 💛 But the pain and hurt of losing that person never goes away. Thanks Mum 🫶

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Tiffany Chu's avatar

Never watched this, and I hate that question! We'll never be okay, but of course for the sake of the person asking, I always end up answering that I am.

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Ruhie Vaidya's avatar

So true Tiffany! We say we’re okay because we don’t want to make anyone else uncomfortable with our grief. This rhetoric needs to change! Thanks Tiffany 💛

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