Nancy, I'm so glad these points resonated with you! I agree that showing up with genuine compassion and authenticity is such a crucial part of meaningful grief support. Even if the words spoken don't offer much in the way of comfort (like this line that was said to you after your daughter died), a person's body language, tone of voice and sincerity speak volumes!
I agree with all your points, but 2--authenticity is so essential.
After our Sheila died, a woman who used to sit behind Sheila and provide support if she needed it, came to me and said, "She's with God, now."
Not my favorite thing to here, but she immediately added, "I don't know what to say."
Then she enveloped me in a big hug. That meant more than any words.
Nancy, I'm so glad these points resonated with you! I agree that showing up with genuine compassion and authenticity is such a crucial part of meaningful grief support. Even if the words spoken don't offer much in the way of comfort (like this line that was said to you after your daughter died), a person's body language, tone of voice and sincerity speak volumes!